Thursday, 11 October 2012

Anti-psychiatry movement

I do believe that sometimes society manifests this world of mental illness and locks people in their own mind. Those who are schizophrenic are dreamers like you and me but someone told them they were unrealistic and not to believe. They created their own world in order to escape, it lasted for a while, then destroyed them causing danger and chaos. If you are gay, you have rights, black/white/asian/hispanic, whatever race you have rights, animals have rights but if you have mental illness, in society it's not right, they forget you are a human, with rights. Times have changed from straight jackets and electrolysis, now the physical is separated from the mental, the emotional, yet they haven't realised that drugs only help the physical, there's little that will help the mental and emotional. Money is all around, some are too blind to see the fortunes laying in front of them, so while some of e rich help some of the poor, they are unaware that there are some who need more. Need care attention love life freedom choices, many are locked up and forced to believe that mental illness is permenant, when we all know its like a flu, a cold, no cure but you can always get better. Open your mind and look around dont underestimate those people around you, be aware of how mental illness is swept under the carpet, help if you can, understand it if you cannot.

Wednesday, 18 July 2012

Single woman syndrome

Yesterday I was just getting into my pyjamas and having a think that us single girls r just as complacent and women in a relationship, we all suffer from a bit of what I call single women syndrome. Side note: this article is not one of seriousness so unbutton your uprightness n be easy. I am going to use myself as prime example of this, because I feel that I am in a very comfortable cycle therefore if a man came long I could possibly be at a loss as it would change my whole lifestyle. First I would have to get sexy. Like no more curlers, headscarfs, face creams at night, because to be fair, that can look scary even in the mirror let alone to anyone else. Also I sleep in like tons of clothing, pjs, dressing gown, I look like a pink mummy, the man would leave before he's even arrived. Another thing is comfort like although they say women let themselves go in relationships, single girls do as well cos they ain't got no1 to get hot for we just stay lukewarm and hope 4 the best. I.e getting into shape, eyebrows, bikini line (I'm not going to get into it but you know what I mean). I just had a convos with one of my girlfriends and it's fair to say we resemble something out of planet of he apes more so when we're single. Next I would have to make time. I find I have very little free time and I can be a culprit of saying 'I don't have time for a man' but like if Beyonce's got time then I guess we all do.  Another problem is phone convos, when I finish work late, tired want my bed and a nice hot ovaltine, the last thing I want is a man giving me sexy talk down the phone line when all I want to do is sleep. I think I'm better off dating myself cos I'm heading off to a lonely road of nine dogs (i don't like cats) and a rocking chair. The way we get conditioned into this 'miss independent' lifestyle get used to it and enjoy it so much, then complain we haven't got a man, don't make sense. If it ain't broke don't fix it, but single ladies if u want a man u got to change it. 

Thursday, 5 July 2012

I love my hair

Hello ladies, even gents J I would just like to raise an issue that is talked about a lot in society especially within black women, that issue/topic is hair. I think hair is lovely, we can do all sorts of things to it, put more on, take some off, add colour, curls, straighten and so forth. However, when does it come to a point that your hair is so different than how you started, you don’t even know what you look like anymore? This article is going to address the over-use of weave in modern day society and try to figure out why so many people (women) hide their beauty under a head of Brazilian/Columbian/Indian/Peruvian hair. Now don’t get me wrong, I’ve seen some lovely weaves and hair styles but let’s not over do it. Recently I had a 14inch curly looking weave thing going on, everyone was like ‘oh you look so nice’, and yes the hair did look good but it was frustrating me. Why? Because 1) when I looked in the mirror, it didn’t really look like me. 2) I missed my hair, the look feel touch, everything about it. So it makes me wonder when women have weave after weave after weave with no break, if they are bald or what’s really going on. I’ve heard that Brazilian hair is about £75 pound a packet and if you buy two that’s about £150 quid, then hairdressers, that’s £200 pound to wear someone else’s hair to look like someone else. Clearly this is an issue that needs to be addressed. 1st I’m going to put it out there: Ladies you are beautiful, don’t let no magazine fool you, no man or whoever tell you otherwise. Weave in or not, this will not change. However, some people are using this hair as a tool to boost self-confidence, therefore never truly being confident to themselves. Fair dos, you see Beyonce with her wigs, weaves, whatever, but chances are when she gets off stage whatever, she takes that shit off and gives her head and neck a break from that heavy load she’s carrying up there. I am not saying wearing weaves is a bad thing because it’s nice to change the look sometimes different styles, maybe you want your hair to grow, so many reasons. But when you become dependent on having someone else’s hair on your head, it’s time to check the inner self and inner love. For example, if I said to you there will never be any weave in production after today, what would you do? Some women would possibly be on the verge on suicide. So come on ladies, especially black ladies, show the world how beautiful you are without a weave, hair straightened or not. Don’t let your hair and other images in society define you. Also I would like to add, men, especially black men, stop contradicting yourself! I see and hear so many men saying they don’t like weave, perm, bla bla bla. Yet! They only date or say they only date women with long/straight/non-afro hair. Men, get it together! Now I’m not telling the ladies to let themselves go and be having a jungle of whatever on their head-top, I’m just saying you don’t need a weave to be beautiful and it’s nice to see women with their own hair and men should appreciate women more as they naturally are rather than whatever the media has conjured up for them. (I am living proof of this, as when I have my natural hair, black men don’t really want to know, most times, as soon as I get that 12inch (whatever name brand) weave sewn it, it’s like my name is man magnet dot com.). So ladies, to conclude, I’m not saying to ditch the weave but love your hair & know your beautiful no matter what J

Monday, 2 April 2012


Its busy out there,
My confidence is low,
I'm going in the crowds,
But don't know where to go,
Looking around, I can't see
Can't find my way,
Hard to breathe,
Close my eyes,
Can't stand still,
People around me,
Yet can't feel,
Dead of the emotions,
Don't feel them inside,
But I feel my beauty,
So I show them pride,
I have the knowlegde,
But prefer them not to know,
They say its what's inside that counts,
But we all know it isn't so,
To be ugly, untrattive, disgusting or otherwise,
You won't be a winner,
No matter how hard you try,
Speaking as a lady I see it everyday,
Pretty girls always get the way,
Every thing I do I always pray,
That I will stay beautiful
Even if everything else is taken away.
I can be comfortable,
Open my eyes,
People stare in awe,
Having the time of my life,
Call it materialistic,
Whatever it maybe,
Everyone knows its truth,
Although they pretend not see,
To be without beauty,
Can seem to be without life,
People may say that I'm wrong,
But society will prove me right.

Monday, 19 March 2012

When the love is gone...

1st love, 2nd love, 3rd or 4th love

tru love hurts

all the things you do
when its over in a second

the things you still when love is gone

looking in the mirror
finding where you went wrong
you want to believe but
lemme tell you the truth

you think:

'his like dont mean a thing without me'
trust me hes stilll living
'his life has changed now im not there'
No- its still the same

it you and your heartbreak
but for you his heart no longer aches

the power you feel
when you feel powerless
he threw you like the rest
hes not a

hes the past
NOT your future

dont believe in the stars
believe in yourself
like he never did

spoil yourself
cos no man ever will


more than any man ever can!!!

Thursday, 2 February 2012

Black women: GET IT TOGETHER!!

I am writing this blog because of a video that I recently saw online about black women. This lady who was a stunning black woman was giving an account on her view on black women being single mums and staying with ‘dogged out’ (as I would put it) black men. And I must say she made some very valid points. From my point of view I do believe that black women have to take some responsibility when their relationship breaks down because as this woman states we chose them, therefore why are we surprised when they cheat, when they are always broke, when they can’t even get us a birthday/Christmas/valentines card. And I know...I’ve been there a few times before. After my last failed relationship with someone who I felt was a waste of time but taught me a lesson about myself. He lied from day one had all sorts of girls and secrets then I was shocked when he cheated and was having threesomes and all of them sexual relations. I was hurt, distressed. Then one day I realised, well if I never engaged with this guy in the first place, this could have well of been prevented. I took a look at my self-confidence, the way I carry myself and the sort of men I attract and I realised I am choosing to form relationships with these men. So rather than changing my type or changing something to do with the man, I decided to change myself. And yea it gets lonely sometimes but it’s really worth it because I know there’s a decent man out there I just haven’t met him yet. I realised I’ve kissed enough frogs, played around with many hyenas and it’s time to stop, focus on what I want. What I want from life and how a relationship can benefit me rather than hinder me and cause upset. I want to say to all women out there, because it’s not only black women making the same mistakes, that you don’t need to sleep with this ‘dogged out’ men to feel loved or have his baby to make him love you. (Furthermore, if he aint a good man, what makes you think he’s gonna be a good father, I don’t get why you want to have an idiot on lock. Anyway another argument for another day). Women should unite, stop hating and criticising each other. We should love one another, compliment each other. We are all beautiful loving people who deserve to be loved. And there’s a deserving man waiting to receive all the love you have to give.